Monday, March 10, 2008

Horny, horny women and their sexual peak

It happened to me when I turned 32. Suddenly, after a very happy 10 years of monogamous marriage I wanted to have sex with EVERY man I saw. This was a confusing time because I didn't love my husband any less, or want our relationship to end, so what was up with this new, raging drive to screw everyone I met?

At first I thought that it was some kind of "seven year itch" a few years late and I was lucky in my relationship for the extra years and it would pass. When I would discuss this with women even a few years younger than me they would say nice things like "yeah I get horny too" but never with the gusto that I believed this particular feeling engendered.

I harkened back to a story I heard from a lesbian friend of mine who said that once she turned a certain 30-ish age, she wanted to have sex with men for the first time in her life. She took this as a maternal signal, thinking "if I want to fuck guys, I must want to have a baby". Her biological clock's alarm had sounded, she did wind up screwing a guy and had a lovely child. Good ending to the story. But what about me, one with no maternal desire for a child? I would not be fooled by my body to procreate!

So, I channeled this desire into, oooh my lucky husband, and into a masturbation practice featuring all the men I would like to fondle. I even made a "DoW" list, my "divorced or widowed" list of men I would screw, in a certain order. In case one of these scenarios became a reality, I would be ready.

This feeling has persisted for the last 5 years, even gained a little ground I must admit, so I had to find out. I decided to research this "women's sexual peak" phenomena.

Turns out, it is the age of the body. An onset of perfect baby making chemicals and physical environment, after years of practice, has reached it's peak. These are the years to reproduce. When girls are 12 or 14 or so, not every ovulation cycle releases an egg. It's sporadic, gaining momentum and then leveling out in cycles. Hitting strides for certain blocks of years as you age. At thirty -ish, every cycle produces and releases an egg, they are present, ripe and active thus sending the horny message to your primitive brain to fuck every bull in the herd. Every month the body wants to fulfill it's hormonal message. Hurray for contraceptives! Then, less and less eggs are released as you get older. Until, kaput. Only on the egg making, I hope we keep the libido.

So, I'm wondering when this peak will end? Or does it have to?

15 comments:

  1. Thanks for this post. I am realizing now that I've hit my sexual peak, even though my boyfriend tells me that it's at age 40. I just turned 30. I have suddenly had the urge to literally fuck all of my male co-workers. I'm glad I'm not alone in all of this.

    I've been fucking my boyfriend 3 times a day and feel this great urge to make a baby. I will be reading your journal more often.

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  2. Just found this site when I was searching the web for "women's sexual peak." I am almost 44 yrs old and ever since I turned 40, I have been horny all the time. I was horny in my late teens-20's, basically almost 0 in my 30s, and now, WOW! And it seems to be getting more intense. I masturbate almost daily since my lover is in another state. I have been trying really hard not to place an ad online looking for a FWB situation. I see men on the street and want to do it right there with them. Thank goodness for some wonderful toys I have been experimenting with. Too bad they don't come with warm bodies.

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  3. I'm not so sure that the sexual peak has anything to do with my biological clock. My "child" is 21yrs old and I'm 44. I've always been sexual, having started sex as a young teen. I've always had a good sexual life and always enjoyed it. I've had great partners. But about 2 yrs ago, I noticed, and in fact, I think my partner noticed before I did--that I wanted and NEEDED sex more often. It has since intensified and all I want to do is get off. I want to fuck everybody--men and women, all day and night. I think about it all the time, no matter what I'm doing. I have no intentions of having or feelings for wanting another child at all--instead, I feel liberated that my kid is an adult right now.

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  4. Thanks for the honesty ladies. Has this urge subsided any? Seems my wife is/was going through this. It started when she was around 30 and now she's 36 how much longer will she have this urge? BTW, I understand when you see someone attractive, you might take a double look, but as you ladies say you want to screw just about every guy you see. Also, any tips to fulfill her fantasies while in this sexual peak would be greatly appreciated. FYI, we've always been a sexually charged couple and I don't consider are sex life "dull".

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  5. OMG , im 29 and i had a baby 15months ago.
    i have never been so horny i my life !!!
    i have a partner who ive been with for about 13 years, we have a much better sex life now then we ever did. (apart from when we where teenagers of course)
    any way the point is that i want to shag any women that crosses my path, i watch lesbian porn all the time and cant get it ut of my head (not that i want to get it out, lol ), i still fancy men but im so into women its doing my brain in. anyone else in this postion ?

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  6. I feel I am at my wit's end. I am 42, only have had a minimal desire for sex since being raped/molested as a child, but now I feel out of control. If all I wanted was to orgasm that would great--but I want to fuck everything. My husband of less than a year is thrilled, but I am still left truly longing for more. It is like my body suddenly woke up after 40 years and wants to be fed for all the time it didn't eat before. It keeps me awake at night--other than shagging every man, woman and fencepost I see--which fortunately or unfortunately my husband is totally supportive of this-- is there anything to tame this? How long does it last? I want it just not so intensely!

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  7. Well, think of it this way, Little Gurll Blue, when it is gone, you will miss it. But I am honestly sorry I don't know the answer to the question, post menopause perhaps? I say..., maybe when you are 70 years old, for sure, it will be less intense. I'm kidding a little, because I am happy for you. Fortunately, you have a husband that is understanding, you have "awoken" to your sexual nature (hurray) which is much better than dying without ever experiencing this intensity, however uncomfortable it may be at moments. My advice is to enjoy it as much as possible, seize every moment, every opportunity and experience it to the fullest.

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  8. I totally get this....I just turned 33 a couple of months ago and for the last 6 months....I could fuck anything that moves....it is crazy. I just left a marriage of 17 years, where I never wanted to do it....have had 3 children and don't want more, but damn....it is like I am a nympho or something....crazy how our bodies change over time.

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  9. Congratulations on hitting your sexual peak! If you did not make a typographical error, and my math is accurate, you were 16 when you married, then had three kids? I'm glad you are so horny now, finally! Do you think your horniness can be described as three parts sexual peak and one part liberation? Did your horniness break up your marriage? Hope you are doing well and enjoying your new freedom.
    Keep reading!

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  10. Thank you, thank you , thank you for writing this. I was starting to think that I was going out of my mind. I am almost 36 and can only equate what I am going through right now as to what an 18 year old boy must feel. Literally almost overnight, all I can think about is sex, I'm so incredibly horney all the time and can think about nothing other than sex 24/7. Myth my ass!!!!

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  11. Thanks for this insightful information. I am 34 years old and i felt something was seriously wrong with me. I live with my 47 year old boyfriend who has been in shock with me for the past two days now. I have been needing to be sexually active for the past couple of days and i am talking about 4 times a day, I just can't seem to get enough. i have been orgasiming more than normal. my boyfriend and i talk about various things and i seem to get so turned on i just want to go to the room everytime and have so much sex. I feel as i am not getting enough. I kept thinking something was wrong with me.

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  12. Good God what on earth has happened to me?? I'm 32 years old and I've turned into a nympho!! A month ago I would be standing washing dishes and thinking nothing but hurrying up to finish them. Now, I am standing there washing dishes and thinking about how could I screw my husband different tonight. WTF?? I'm not complaining in no way, I am having tons of fun for sure!! I just didnt understand what was wrong with me till I began reading this discussion. My sex life is unbelievably fantastic right now! I am exploring things I never used to do. Im letting my husband do things to me that I would never let him do to me before either! I dont care where he puts it, just put it somewhere!! I think about sex all the time. I want it in the morning, all day long, and all night long. I cant hardly sleep, eat or think straight without wanting to fuck my husband. Everything he does, including just breathing turns me on. I can just look at him and want to fuck right then! I love this, I just hope I dont get into a car wreck thinking about fucking my husband from this. lol

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  13. I am 34 years old and I am having all the more desire for sex, I do feel I am hitting my peak, but my partner of 12 years that is also 4 years younger than I, isn't quite filling or hitting the spot. It seems to move deep inside or is exactly on the entry spot. I do seem to desire other men more..plz help if anyone can!!! I hate to see my 12 year relationship go down the drain, when I have always been faithful.

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  14. I found this searching for answers but i'm not sure that I found mine because I do have the greater desire for sex at the age of 34, I have always enjoyed sex but lately mine is unquenchable, and it seems my partner isn't hitting the spot at times. Sometimes it's deep inside and sometimes it's just on entry......weird but I do have the desire to be with other men more than mine of 12 years.sad that my prime may break our relationship up. I am not sure what to do!!!

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  15. I have described this very thing to many of my friends, and none of them seem to get it. My theory is I'm single, a lesbian, and haven't been on the pill since I was 21 (I'm now 36).

    It all started when I was 31. Every 4 or 5 months I would feel it, and men were drawn to me like moths to a fire, even going so far as turning around as though they could sense me, only looking at me, not even glancing at my friends.

    Now it's increased. The hunger is there constantly, with a couple weeks every few months without - the total opposite. I'm also finding my breasts are about 100 times more sensitive. I don't care who fucks me or where. I don't want intimacy. I want them to walk up behind me and fuck me and walk away. The only things that's stopping me is possibly getting pregnant or getting an STD.

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