No Doubt, Screw First, Talk Later

I never understand when women, and even sometimes men -gasp- tell me they are "waiting" to have sex with the person they are currently "dating" because they want the relationship to be a long and strong one and don't want to jinx it or ruin it by introducing the sexual element into the relationship too soon.

I have news for you. If you can hold off on fucking each other, it doesn't stand a chance in the long run. In my experience, love starts off with an incredible chemical rush that makes you want to rip that persons clothes off, or just hug them forever, or mash your body near them, but love never makes you back away or create physical distance. That is your stupid judgmental mind working, and has no place in your life if you are hoping that love will find you. If you are scared that the sex won't be good enough to express how you feel, then you are too concerned with performance and not letting go enough to enjoy these beginning moments. Figuring out what your new honey likes, making a fool of yourself, choking, gagging, spitting, farting, tasting, picking pubes out of your teeth, sweating, stinking, weird hairs, morning breath...all these things SHOULD be experienced right out of the gate while the LOVE chemical is flooding your brain. When else are you gonna think that all these things are incredibly beautiful?
Plus, this type of intimacy is what gets you through the stupid..."let's go out with your friends" nights, it's what makes for those great long lingering looks across a crowded room when you are both thinking about what you did in that cab you took to the bar. It creates a connection that differentiates you as a unit from the other individuals around you. Even if you have fucked every person in the room, they are who you have fucked last, they have the most recent updates, the latest version of your software and that is what makes them special.
If you are scared you won't be able to get them off, give them a mind blowing orgasm... all that crap, dream on! First, face it, if the chemistry is not there (meaning you are finding it easy to wait to have sex), you won't be a hot couple and should just drop it. Secondly, you won't be able to technically get them off as fast, as well or as easily as their last partner because they had a bunch of practice and were comfortable, and knew what to do with each other. But guess what, they are out of the picture, so stop comparing yourself to the past lovers or being fearful that she or he had sex better when she or he was having it with the person they were having it with before you. -whew-. You cannot and should not think about the past when you should be focusing on the present moment.

And, years later, as you ebb and flow through the cycles of having sex all the time, and not remembering the last time you had sex, you will have the memories of these encounters to masturbate to, and also to carry you through the fights and sad times. There is a reason you are together and you should discover it, explore it, and exploit it right away, for all that it is worth, because in the end, if the relationship doesn't work out, at least you had some good times to show for your emotional investment.